Thursday 18th March
Didn't sleep well last night worrying about mum, phoned her to tell her that I wouldn't be over today as I was going out with a friend for coffee but John would pop in and see her. I asked her if she went to the Friendship club she said that she had and had a lovely time and really, really enjoyed it but she said that she had been silly and had gone much too early, she told me all about getting fish and chips and sitting on the bench and Daph picking her up and that she had been in a state!
John went over and did a bit of gardening for her, he stayed with her for a couple of hours, she was very happy that he was there and when he left she was in the front garden.
I phoned Hartley House care home to make an appointment and they told me that we didn't need one, just to turn up. I asked if there was a time when it was difficult, she said that breakfast was 9am and lunch was from 1pm, and those times were busy. I told her that we would go in either next Wednesday or Thursday (24th / 25th) . I asked if mum could go on a waiting list and was told that mum would be assessed by them before going on the list. They don't have any places available at present, they also do respite care and day care.
Michael phoned West View and got an appointment next Friday (26th) at 2pm they told him that they only had 6 on the waiting list.
Saturday 20th March
Phoned and told mum that we would be over in the afternoon she said was I better as I didn't go in on Thursday, I told her that I was fine and that I didn't go in as I had met up with a friend and gone out for coffee, she said that I hadn't been in for a long time but thingy had been in yesterday, I later found out she meant Michael. I told her that Teresa would be back from Australia soon, she said yes but I still want to see you.
We got over to see her about 3pm and she was pleased to see us, we noticed that she was very flushed, I picked up 3 cups and glasses in the front room, one of the cups had wine in it, I looked in the cupboard and she had got herself another bottle of wine, I topped the bottle up with lemonade and wrote in the carers book that was what I had done.
I took her over some home made meals and put them in the freezer so that I know she is getting proper meals ..She said to John that, this is the problem tapping her head, he said your memory? She said 'yes' He told her that is why she has to take her tablets everyday, she remarked 'well they aren't working. It makes me so sad to see her like this.
Mum said to John it's funny that Michael's name is Michael, when he asked her what she thought that his name was she said Lee (which was her maiden surname)
Daph told me that mum had gone up to the village and when she got back she couldn't get back into the house and had gone over to them, Andrew went back over with her and had managed to get the front door open for her he wasn't sure why she hadn't been able to get in.
Before we left John got her a very watered down glass of wine.
I saw a note in the carers book that mum had told them that she hadn't seen anyone on Thursday. I wrote beside it that, yes she had, John had been over with her for a couple of hours helping her in the garden!
Tuesday 22nd March
Mum not to bad this morning, muddly but that's just normal, she helped me do a few jobs around the house and I helped her get into the bath so she could have a soak.
We walked up to the village. We got a bit of food shopping and she got a couple of plants in the shop, when we got back John helped her plant them in the front garden.
Before we left I got her a sandwich and she said that she would have it later as she was very tired and said that she would have a snooze in her chair she wanted a glass of wine so John gave her a very watered down one...
Thursday 24th March
We got to mums at 9.30am she was all ready to go out, we hadn't told her that we were going anywhere today! We all went over to D & D's for coffee and cake, but after she finished her cup of tea she said that she wanted to go. D asked her why she had two tee shirts on and she said because she thought that she was going out, we stayed for another cup of tea and then took her home.
Mum asked John when are you coming over again and he told her we would be over on Saturday and she said ' Oh good perhaps we can get those things then' so John told her that, OK on Saturday we would go to the Garden Centre.
Michael phoned re: going to look around Hartley House, his car was in the garage and asked if John could pick him up but John was out with the dog and would be out for a couple of hours so we decided to leave going to look around until he comes back from his sking holiday. He said that he would pick me up at 1.30pm tomorrow so that we could look around West View.
Mum phoned about 3.30pm to say what had we done to her TV as it wouldn't work. John said that she was surprised to hear his voice, he told her he would phone D and see if he could pop over and have a look, I think that she thought that is who she had phoned. Phoned D and they went over, when they phoned back they said that mum had turned the sound right down by mistake.
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