Welcome to my blog. My name is Lizzie and this is a diary of my Mums dementia, the people who I mention in my entries are John my husband, Michael my brother, Teresa my sister and Dib and Daph who are mums brother and sister-in-law.... It has been a hard struggle and I have written a diary all through every step of her progress deeper into the illness.




Wednesday, 1 February 2012

Tuesday 8th June - 14th June 2010


Tuesday 8th June 2010

Forgot my key so had to knock on the front door, eventually mum let us in, she was very confused and said had we come to see how she was as she was just going to bed, I told her it was only 8am in the morning, she was convinced it was the evening. She kept saying that she had sat on the floor as everyone kept coming in and going to the toilet and when she got up she thought that she would fall over!

I got her some breakfast and gave her meds to her, she tipped her water in the pot with her tablets in, so I had to get her to get them out of the water and quickly take them – also when we got there she had a milk bottle half full with tea! She just made light of it when I asked about what she had done) I helped her have a bath.

She also told me that she couldn't remember which was her bed and that she had been up all night. I asked her if she had slept in her chair all night and she said that no she hadn't, when I went into her bedroom her bed was in a real mess and half stripped. I changed the sheet and made the bed up for her.

We walked up to the village and got her quite a bit of shopping, sorted out her money for her and left some in her purse and left some in the cabinet so when the other came in they could check her purse to see if she had any money for shopping etc.

We all went over to D & D's for coffee, we got back to her house at 12.15pm so we were back for
the carer.

She wasn't having any problems walking today. She is going to the Friendship club tomorrow.

Wednesday 9th June

Michael phoned and said that Social Services had been in touch re-assessing mums finances for cost of respite care, got an appointment at mums 11am Thursday the 17th, could I take all her bank account statement and pension details. Michael would pick me up at 10.30am.

Phoned Daph and she said that mum had been very confused and muddly today, she said that mum had been over to them several times but could not make Dib hear as he was in the back garden. They saw mum going down to the Friendship club just after 1.30pm which was too early, so they took her in for a cut of tea, mum said that she had two cups in her bag, when Daph looked she had her Sandles in her handbag. When they got back from taking her to the club, Deirdre (mums neighbour) called over to then asking if mum was in as she had left her french windows wide open!

When mum got back D took her homeand sorted her out and put her TV on.

Daph got a phone call from the evening carer to see if she had Teresa’s phone number as mum had said that she wanted to speak to her daughter. D phoned Michael and he said that he would get Teresa to phone her. She phoned mum while D was there, mum was very, very tearful. Michael went over and sat with her for a while. D phoned me and told me what had happened

I phoned Michael later in the evening to see how mum was and he said that she was fine when he left her, Teresa was at work so I couldn't get hold of her. Teresa going over on tomorrow, we are going on Friday and Michael on Sunday.


Thursday 10th June

Phoned Town and Country carers to cancel the lunchtime carer for tomorrow as mum is coming here for lunch, I also cancelled the lunchtime carer for Monday 14th as mum is going to the foot clinic.

Friday 11th June

Phoned mum to remind her that we were picking her up this morning to bring her here for lunch, she said that she was just thinking about me, we picked her up at 10.30am she was muddly and it was difficult to understand what she was trying to say, but that is just how she is normally.

On the way home we took her to the garden centre she got a couple of plants, and we took her for a little ride round.

When we got back to her house John asked her if she had her key, I told her it was in her purse, instead of taking our her key she took our her small purse and said 'what this!' I told her No, not her purse her key she then took out 2 five pound notes .. eventually she found her key, she then complained that she didn't have any money and I had to get her purse out and show her that she had £40 in her purse and she said ' well that's not much.'

We left her watching football on the TV gave her a glass of wine and told her we would see her on Monday.

Monday 14th June

Picked mum up to take her to her foot clinic appointment, when we got there she was in the garden, we couldn't find her purse we looked everywhere, when all of a sudden she said I know where it is, she opened the fridge and there it was.

When I read the carers book it said that on Saturday mum had had a 'little accident' and the carer had changed mums bedding and put it in the washing machine and that mum had slept in the other bedroom.

We brought mum here for lunch, she had a look round the garden and we got her to play a game of cards (rummy) she did quite well but after a couple of games she was tired, she kept seeing black flies again

Laura (my daughter) came in and mum was pleased to see her, Laura said 'I see that you have found your glasses Nan' mum said 'yes I have two eyes' Laura said I can see that you have' mum said 'of course I have!'

Laura took some photos... 






We got her home about 3.30pm and she said are you still coming tomorrow I told her of course we are.

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