Welcome to my blog. My name is Lizzie and this is a diary of my Mums dementia, the people who I mention in my entries are John my husband, Michael my brother, Teresa my sister and Dib and Daph who are mums brother and sister-in-law.... It has been a hard struggle and I have written a diary all through every step of her progress deeper into the illness.




Tuesday, 31 January 2012

Sorting our Respite and lunchtime carer


Tuesday 1st June 2010

Got to Mums at 8am gave her breakfast and her meds also helped her have a bath, John and I did some housework for her.

 Had to look for her glasses as she had lost them once again!  I couldn’t find them anywhere, so left a note to the carers to that effect.

 We walked up to the village and got her some shopping and stocked up her food cupboard. When we got back I got her a cup of tea and a slice of cake, before we left I got her a sandwich and cake and a glass of Lambruso.  I left her a home cooked meal to have later in the afternoon

Michael picked me up at 2pm and we went to Daphs to have a meeting with Sharon Hale from Social Services, to fill in the 42 page form to apply for 2 weeks respite care at West View in Tenterden, with the hope that it would lead to a permanent placing.

We also sorted a lunch time carer to go in to make sure she is eating lunch time, she would start tomorrow.  She also sorted out a carer to go in on Tuesday 29th June as I have a hospital appointment so I can’t go over to her.

John picked me up and on the way home we noticed that Michael had gone into mum, he said that when he got there mums back door was unlocked and that she was in bed!

Wednesday 2nd June

1.30pm the Town and Country lunch time carer phoned to say that she had gone to mum at that mum wasn’t there.  I told her that it was best to leave it for today and that I would try and find out where she was!

I phoned Dib and told him, he said that mum was there as another neighbour had gone over to him and said that mum was wondering up and down the road not knowing where she was, so he went and found her and took her back with him, she was now with him.

Did said that they would keep and eye on her at this time of the day from now on

I phoned Town and Country and explained what had happened.

Saturday 5th June

(We managed to get a couple of days away) I phoned mum to say that we would be popping in to see her and she said ‘Thank goodness I wondered where you had been, I haven’t seen you for a very long time’.

We got to mums just after 9am she looked very disorientated and a bit far away! I got her a cup of tea and a slice of cake and  we sat outside in the garden as it was a lovely sunny day.

Michael phoned and was surprised that we were there and that he was going to pop over, I told him that it was fine as we were only staying for a little while.


I told mum that Michael was coming over and she got very excited, saying ‘do I look Ok’ and  ‘ I wonder where he is taking me’ I told her that he hadn’t mentioned that he was taking her anywhere, just that he was coming over, she got very fidgety and then stood in the front garden until he arrived.  The first thing she asked him was ‘where are you taking me’.  I reminded him that the carer would be there at 12.30pm

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