Thursday 27th May 2010
Michael called in, we talked about mum and I told him that I needed more help, I told him that mum had been offered respite care at West View and Social Services would arrange it all, also a lunch time carer to call on her.
He told me that Alice breaks up from school today and that Teresa and Linda will be able to take her out.
He also wants to come over to Daphs on Tuesday when Sharon Hale comes from Social Services come so that he can ask some questions
Daph phoned later to say that she had a phone call from Town and Country carers to say that the carer could not lock the front door, she went over and mum had all the keys in a muddle on the table, she had taken the key ring of the back door key, when she asked mum why she had done that mum said that ‘ because it needs a whats name!’ Daph put the key back on the key ring, mum got a bit grumpy with D and said to her ‘you know everything, you do’
Later on in the afternoon Daph phoned again to say that mum had been out with the friendship club to the cinema and Verity Buckle had phoned to say that the Kino Cinema had got in touch with her to say they had found a black bag with a blue purse in it and the only name it had on it was Daphs, she said that she thought that it was mums but the cinema had got a bit ‘awkward’, Verity explained to them that mum has dementia.
I told D what mum had in her purse when I left her on Tuesday, she also had a small purse in her bag with a bit of change in it.
I phoned Teresa, as she was with mum, to ask if mum had lost her purse and she said that they were looking for it at that moment., she said that mum was in a state and had found some money in the pot in the cabinet, but couldn’t find her purse.
Got back in touch with D and she said that she was going up to the cinema to see if she could get the bag back, she phoned me back and said that she had got the bag, she was able to tell them roughly what mum had in her purse and that there was also a small purse with some change in it. I phoned Teresa back and told her that the bag and purse had been found and that D had it at her house.
Teresa said that she was going to have a talk with mum about Care home but it was difficult.
Friday 28th May 2010
Phoned mum in the morning but she was out so phoned again at 3pm and she was there she said that she didn’t have anyone there, I said no but Teresa came yesterday, she remembered that she had been there and also said that she had been ‘over there’ which I took to mean she had been over to D & D’s and there wasn’t anyone there, I told her that Daph was at work and Dib was probably in the back garden and didn’t here her.
Told her we would be over in the morning , she said ‘good’ I said that we couldn’t go today as we were busy, she said ‘you don’t have to thingy’ I said do you mean ‘justify why we can’t come over’ she said ‘yes that’s it’
Saturday 29th May 2010
Mum looked really well when we got there today, she complained that it was really cold, so checked the central heating and it had been turned right down so turned it back up to 20, We sat at the kitchen table and had a cup of tea, mum said that ‘he had come and picked her up’ I took it that she meant that Michael had picked up Teresa yesterday..( I am getting good at working things out!!) but she said he didn’t stay long and I don’t see him much, I told her that I had asked him to pop in more to see her.
When I went into the front room with her she told me that Teresa had said that she was worried about her being there on her own, I told her we were all worried about her being on her own and being safe and that she was lonely she said that she was but I am not now! she told me that she liked me being there best, I told her that I couldn’t be there all the time as we had things that we had to do as well
Found quite a few dirty blouses in her bedroom wardrobe so sorted them out, found a £10 note in one of the pockets
While tiding up found her walking stick plus another one, D said that she would phone Verity and Bett to see if it belongs to either of them, she took them over to her house.
When we were sitting in the garden mum said that she could always come home with us, I told her we were going shopping and said that she wouldn’t be able to come she asked ‘why are you going such a long way!’ I told her we would be over again on Tuesday.
Just before leaving I found a box of matches, I asked mum why she had them and she said that she needed them, I wanted to take them but she made me put them in the kitchen cupboard. I hope she forgets she has them. !!!
In the evening Teresa phoned and said that she had talked to mum and had told her that we were all worried about her, especially me and that she had also heard that she had lost her way home when she went to the shop (mum told her that’s not what happened) and wouldn’t it better if she went somewhere where it was like the friendship club everyday, mum said she didn’t think she was ready for that yet!.
I told Teresa that if mum is going to stay at home that she will need a lot more help, but we both agreed that no one can be there 24 hours, she said that Linda was going to start taking her over so that they could take mum out. She said that Michael was finding it difficult to talk to mum about a care home although he thinks that is where she should be somewhere.. John and I are finding things difficult to deal with at the moment..
Sunday 29th June 2010
Daph phoned to ask where the spare lifeline was as the carer couldn’t find one this morning, she said that mum was fine this morning
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