We picked Bett up and got into mum at 11am, she was sitting with Jessica in the lounge, she was pleased to see Bett. There was a new lady there and she was shouting and causing quite a commotion she had moved her chair into the middle of the corridor and shouted at everyone who walked past, I was surprised that it hadn't upset mum, she seem to take it all in her stride.
Mum made us laugh as Bett had a red cardigan on and mum said to her 'what strawberry are you?', when we laughed she did too ..I don't think she realised what we were laughing at though.
The chap who goes in everyday to be with his wife was quite chatty he is usually very grumpy, he told us that his wife had been there for 3 years and he has seen some things while she had been there!
Mum told us that she had a bath and it was funny..... Apparently Karen gave her a bath one of the other carers was going to do it but mum insisted that Karen did it ... (Karen did admit that mum was her
favourite, I told her she was mums favourite too)
We took mum along to the dining room as we thought that it would be quieter, but the lady who laughs and mutters to herself followed us in, she was swearing quite a lot, JJ went over to her and she went very quiet Betty was talking to her and when she snatched the wipes away from the carer ~Betty told her that she was an evil old woman..
The carer tried to get mum to wipe her hands before lunch but poor mum just couldn't understand what he wanted her to do, so he did it for her, he said that he liked mum as she has a really good sense of humour and laughs a lot.
We left mum having her lunch.
Monday 9th May
Mum saw us through the window when we arrived, I went and paid some more pocket money to Clare for mum and when we got in the unit mum was walking down the corridor asking us where had we been. She was really muddled, she said shall we go upstairs, she looked quite mucky she had a dirty top and dirty skirt on, we went into her room and I changed her clothes, I hung up a lot of clothes into the wardrobe and sorted out the clothes that needed to go into the wash (Daphne said that she had a bath this morning but seeing the state of her I don't think that she did).
Mum wanted to go out, so Daphne found a wheelchair. Jenny the cleaner said that mum had been tearing up all her photos in the albums and thought that it would be best if we took them home, I said that 'no' I didn't want to do that and could we put the albums on top of the wardrobe as we like to go through them with her when we visit. She had also pulled of the stands at the back of the photo frames...
We walked over to Tesco coffee shop for cake and cup of tea, she liked going out but she was very muddly and we couldn't understand a lot of what she was saying, Daphne said that she had been weepy for the last few days. When we took her back she said do you have to keep bringing me back to this place. I asked Daphne if she thought that mum might have another urine infection, she said that she would do a test.
I tried to talk to mum about sleeping in her bed and not in her armchair but it was hard to understand her today, we promised that we would be back to see her in a couple of days.
Tuesday 10th May
I phoned to see how mum was, they said that Daphne was off today so I spoke to Jasmine, she said that mum was fine today, she had her breakfast and was sitting in the dining room in the armchair, I asked her if Daphne had done the urine test and she told me that there wasn't any notes about it but she would do one.
Thursday 12th May
When we got to mum it took her a while to realise who we were, but then the penny dropped and she was so pleased to see us, we took her into the dining room where Cynthia was making cakes with the other ladies, she gave some mixture to mum for her to join in but she pushed it away saying that she didn't want to do it, so JJ and I did it, and got her to mix it when we had finished, we have noticed that if things are a little hard to do she just gives up and wont try to do it..
While we were talking to her she burst into tears and said that she didn't think that we were going in today, I gave her a cuddle and told her that I loved her and of course we would go in and see her as much as we can, JJ told her that he would go in everyday if he could but it isn't possible to do that, Cynthia came over and told mum that she was lucky as we come in a lot to see her and asked her if she would like to go out in the bus this afternoon for an outing to Dover, at first she said that 'no' she didn't want to but we persuaded her to go, the trouble was she thought that we would be going too. I had to explain to her that we couldn't go with her, she got a little annoyed and started to say that we always say that, I had to say to her that 'no' that wasn't fair to say that, she ended up laughing.
Jasmine came to see us and said that they had done a urine test and mum had an infection and that she was on antibiotics...
Wednesday 18th May
Teresa phoned to say that she had been into see mum yesterday and that she was OK, she had been talking about JJ, saying that he is so nice and that he will do anything for her, and his wife is quite nice too!!!. She told Teresa that she enjoyed us going in.
The home have asked if we could take all the photos away that are in the frames as she has taken them all to bits and there is still a piece of glass that they cannot find...(we thought we would look for a large frame to put them in and so they could be put on the wall)
Mum has been flashing her boobs again, when Karen said to her, Annie that isn't nice, mum said, why not they are only tits! I will ask them to put a full length petticoat on her when they get her dressed so she can't do it.
Mum having her hair done on Friday so will phone before we go to see what is the best time to go in.
Friday 20th May
Went in a bit later as Daphne thought that mum was having a perm, but she wasn't just a cut, shampoo and set. She was back in the unit when we got there, JJ gave her a cuddle and she burst into tears, she thought that we weren't going in to see her today but we soon got her smiling again.
I got her fleece and we went out into the garden on the way through she saw Salome and mum said to her 'what are you doing standing there doing nothing?' mum has such a way with words, Salome said that they often have a banter together, she also talked to the receptionist but she thought that she was the hairdresser.
We sat outside for quite a while she loved the roses, she asked about Michael and said that he wouldn't go and see her, JJ said that when he saw him he would give him a slap she said and give him one from me too.. It got really hot and she started to worry about going back inside, when we got back Jessica was coming back from the hairdressers and mum said that she didn't like her. Karen took her into lunch and she said see you later and she was fine about us going.
Her new glasses had been delivered and they look nice, they have her name engraved on the frame but wonder how long it will be before she can't find them..
I took all of the photos in frames out of her room and brought them home.
Tuesday 24th May
We took mum to Ham Street garden centre, when we first got to the home she was wondering about saying 'I was looking for you'..We went into the cafe and she had a large slice of cake and a cup of tea, she really enjoyed it.
We wheeled her round and looked at all the flowers, she desperately wanted to buy an orchid, so we got her an artificial one, she thought that it was real as it looks good...We think that she thought that she was coming home with us but had to explain that the last time she came she complained that it was such a long way and that she got very tired, she said 'Oh did I, I don't remember'. She talked a lot, most of which we couldn't understand. When we pulled into the car part she said, this is it, and went in quite happily. Daphne gave her antibiotics as she has yet another urine infection.
We stayed with her until she was just about to have her lunch.
She mentioned several times while we were out how good we both were, she even remembered my name when we first got there but 10mins afterwards she had forgotten it.
P.S. glasses lost already!
Friday 27th May
Daph text to say that they had been in to see mum today and that all was fine.
Tuesday 31st May
Mum was looking out of the window when we go there, she was wearing a blouse over the top of her t-shirt which was far to small for her, I took it of off her and saw that it didn't belong to her so gave it to Mervyn for him to sort out, he said she often picks up things that are left lying around. She was pleased to see us and told us that she had been to Tunbridge Wells to get some money and then said that, no, not money as I've got some upstairs, she was in good spirits talked a lot of nonsense but she was happy.
We stayed for a couple of hours and then took her into the dining room for lunch and sat her at the table with Joyce and Britt..no Betty today as she is in hospital, Mervyn thinks that she may have a UTI...
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