Teresa phoned to say that mum was very tearful yesterday, she was waiting by the door when they got there, she looked at Michael and said to him that she thought that he was dead!, she was very confused and upset, she said that she thought that mum was trying to say, in a round about way, that she didn't think that she would end up in a home.
Teresa had a word with Tina to see if mum needed any medication as she just keeps crying, she said that if mum was crying all the time, which she said that she wasn't, that they would have to see the GP. Tina said that a lot of them were upset because of not being able to see relatives when the home was closed due to the winter flu virus, there is also a lady that goes out a lot and perhaps that is upsetting her!
Michael and Teresa decided to take her out for a while, it was a bit of a struggle but they managed to get her in Michaels Discovery, mum said to them 'does Liz know we are coming' Teresa told her that they were not coming to see me. They took her to the new garden centre, and managed to get a wheel chair at the centre, they have a nice restaurant so they took her for tea and cake.... Teresa thought that mum looked very pale... Michael seemed to think that she looked OK!
Teresa said she thinks that mum likes a lot of attention and doesn't like it when others get more attention than her from the carers. She said that she is going in again tomorrow
John and I both think that the new lady, Jessica, may be upsetting mum, as she keeps asking mum where she lived and how long had she been there, she told mum that she hasn't got a home anymore as her family had given it all to the charity shop.
Phoned Daph to see if she was going in this afternoon and she is, I told her about Jessica and she said that she would see how things are and ring later. Daph phoned to say that mum wasn't too bad when they went to see her, no tears, but she couldn't remember Michael and Teresa going in to see her yesterday, she said she went somewhere but not with them! she was having lunch when they got there, she was trying to take her blouse off so she had to go and get Tina to put it back on, she said that she asked Daphne about mum keep crying and she said that depression is part of the illness and if it keeps going on they will see the GP about giving her some medication. They said in the lounge and mum talked a lot and they understood bits of what she was telling them, she said that she had talked to Tina and she said that she didn't think that mum was very happy there, will see what Teresa says tomorrow.
Teresa said that Tina needs information about mum regarding the census form and she thinks that I would know more than she does.
Monday 21st March
Teresa phoned she had been into see mum today and that she was still weepy, Tina told her that she keeps pulling the button off of her cardigan and putting them in her mouth, so could we get her some zipped up cardigans instead of ones with buttons, she also suggested we get some polo type shirts... She will be away for a week so will not be going in to mum.
Tuesday 22nd March
We went into Maidstone and got mum a new cardigans, a fleece jacket, some polo shirts and petticoats.
Wednesday 23rd March
Mum was sitting in the dining room when we got there, she was really pleased to see us, she thought that we were going to take her out, she said that she was going to cry when we got there but she cheered up after a while. I completed the census form and gave it back to Tina.
Mum talked a lot but not a lot made any sense, we took her out into the garden for a while which she really enjoyed, when we took her back inside we sat in the dining room for a while, we left her waiting for her lunch and when we left she said 'hurry back'
Mum has a eye appointment on Monday and I asked if Karen could take her and mum is very fond of her.
Thursday 24th March
Got mums bank statement this morning and noticed that no pension had been paid into her account since 22nd February, phoned to see what had happened they didn't know why it had happened and said that it would be sorted and the money would be in her account within 3-5 days .
Tuesday 29th March
Daph phoned to say that she had been into see mum with Mary today, she was a bit tearful but not too bad, mum said to them 'let's get out of here' they got a wheelchair and took her to the coffee shop in Tescos .. when they took her back she told them that she lived there now.
Wednesday 30th March
Karen took mum to the eye appointment on Monday and all OK she hasn't got to go back until next year. Karen said that mum was disappointing as she thought that she was going to Hastings!
She was in the lounge when we got there, she was a bit red eyed and Daphne said that she has been very tearful, mum thought that we were taking her out, she wasn't happy when we told her that we couldn't take her out today, she pointed to me and said 'she always says that' (I find it quite upsetting when she does that, it feels like she blames me!), she keeps saying that she could come to our house for a little while and that she could walk there. We stayed for a couple of hours, it was a difficult visit.
We left her in the lounge as they were just going to serve dinner. Sar, one of the carers had got some of the musical instruments out and was trying to get mum interested in joining in but mum couldn't get the hang of it
Daphne said that she heard mum talking to one of the other ladies and heard her say that they just dump us here...
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