Saturday 24th July 2010
I saw
Teresa at Emily’s birthday party she said that we should go and look at the
care home in Ashford on Monday and The Priory at Pembury on Tuesday she would
text me with the times
Monday 26th July
Had to
phone and cancel mums foot clinic appointment as John not well, phoned mum to
tell her she said are you coming over, I was just going to ring you!!! I told
her that we would be over tomorrow.
Marie
phoned from Town and Country to say she would be coming to do the carers assessment
at 9am
tomorrow.
Michael
picked me up just before 1pm and we picked Teresa up and we went
to have a look around Park View Care Centre in Kingsnorth, Ashford. The manager
is Mrs Salome Erasmus, we were quite impressed with the care home, each
resident has their own room with ensuite (loo and wash basin) the staff looked
very caring and everyone looked well cared for and the home was clean and smell
free!!
We had a
long meeting with the care manager, she said that if we decided that mum would
go there we should phone Sharon Hale at Social Services, who will get in
contact with her and she will go and assess mum and then it would be about a
week after that mum would be able to go into the home, they have a place coming
free next week.
We decided
to go and have a look at The Priory, Pembury next Monday (there is a top up fee
of £33.00 per week at the Ashford Home).
Tuesday 27th July
Mums was
asleep on the sofa when we got there (just after 8am) the back door was open,
she was very confused and muddily, I got her breakfast and gave her medications
to her, helped her have her bath and did a few jobs around the house.
Marie came
for Town and Country to do the assessment.
I asked her if it could be added in mums care book that she need help
with putting her tights on and to brush her hair in the mornings also could
they give mum one of the cooked meals that are in freezer for her dinner as
they are only giving her sandwiches and she isn’t have a hot meal a day, she
was there about 2 hours.
Mum was
really crabby today, she got quite nasty when she showed me some pork chops and
said that we could have them for dinner today and I said that we didn’t stay
for dinner but that she comes to us on Fridays, she said quite nastily ‘you are
always making excuses’ I got a bit cross and told her that we always did
something else when we left her on a Tuesdays.
Went to the supermarket and go her groceries for her and made sure she
had enough money in her purse.
When I
checked her shopping receipts I noticed that she had bought a bottle of wine
yesterday and she had drunk ¾’s of it already.
When I got
home I ordered some name tags to sew on mums’ clothes as everything has to be
named when she goes into a care home
Daph phoned
me and told me that mum had gone into Betts on Sunday thinking it was a week
day, she had loaned mum her walking stick again as mum had forgotten hers.
Daph said
that mum had been very off on Sunday, she had gone over and seen that Vic and
Maureen were also there for lunch and she accused Daph of making her sit
outside, of course she hadn’t ( we think that she was jealous that they were
there and not just her on her own) . Dib
walked her home after lunch and found that all the doors were locked and mum
didn’t have a key with her she had come out of the front door and let it lock
behind her.
Daph phoned
me at 8.30pm to say that mum was at her house and wanted to speak to me, she
thought that it was morning and where was I, I told her that it was the evening
and she said ‘that is what they are all saying here but I think it is the
morning’ she then asked if I was coming over, I told her we had been over this
morning, she couldn’t remember that we had been there, so I went through with her all the things we had done that
morning, bath, Marie from Town and Country coming in, shopping etc, she then
said ‘Oh yes’ I told her we would see her again on Friday and that Teresa would
see her Thursday.
I spoke to
Daph again and she said that mum had said she wanted to talk to Michael but she
said that she wouldn’t know what to say to him, Daph said of course you would
he is your son. Dib walked mum back home and helped her get ready for bed, he
left the landing light on and turned all the other lights on and made sure all
the doors were locked, by the time he got home all the lights were off.
I phoned
Michael, he is going into mum with Teresa & Linda tomorrow, and they all
think that we should phone Sharon Hale at Social Services about Park View care
home and start the ball rolling, he will phone me tomorrow.
Wednesday 28th July
Michael
phoned and said that he had a word with Teresa and she said to ring Sharon Hale
so she could sort out everything with Salome Erasmus at Park View,
Ashford. I phoned her and she told me
that all the funding was in place for mum, she said that she would phone Salome
at Park View and give her my details so that she could contact me about doing
the assessment on mum.
She advised
me that when mum goes into a home it would be best for Michael to take her as
the son is usually the blue eyed boy of the family and it would probably be
best if I left it for about 2 weeks before I go and see her as usually it is
the one who has been doing the most for them who gets the blame for them going
into a home. The home will bill Michael and Teresa for top up fees; she said
would I phone when I know when mum is going into the home.
Sharon phoned back later in the afternoon and said that she had phoned Salome
at Park View and didn’t think that she was ‘on the ball!’ and that it was a
nursing home and not a EMI residential care home and that mum would not like it
there. I was a bit shocked at this; she
said that she had found Salome, slap dash! She said that she didn’t remember me
giving her the information and then said Oh yes, but she couldn’t find it at
the moment.
I told Sharon
that I was sure that it was an EMI residential as the residence we saw were suffering
from dementia the same as mum, she said that she would phone and make sure as
they would not fund a nursing home as it is not what mum requires and she would
find out what the fees were but she said that she is sure it would be more than
the £33.00 per week top up that we had been told. John had a word with her to find out exactly what
she meant. I got a bit cross and asked
her where else is available as Tusker House the home she advised to us is definitely
not the home for mum and she had told us that Hartley House had a vacancy and
they hadn’t, she said that there was a shared room coming up there but I told
her we didn’t want mum to share.
I phone
Park View but as it was after 5.30pm Salome the care manager had gone home, I
spoke to someone on one of the wings and she told me that wings downstairs at
the home were EMI residential and the ones upstairs were for EMI nursing care and
that she was sure that the £33.00 quoted as the top up was correct.
I tried to
phone Sharon Hale at Social Services but the offices were close for the day.
John is going to phone Park View and Sharon Hale tomorrow.
Thursday 29th July
John phoned
Park View, Salome not there, he spoke to the assistant manager, she confirmed
that they are a residential EMI care home and the fees are £464.82 per week so
the top up quoted was correct, he also told her what Sharon had said about Salome not being ‘on
the ball’.
He tried to
phone Sharon Hale but she was out of the office, he was told that she would be
back between 1pm -5pm so he left a message for her to say he would
be phoning her back. Sharon phone back as soon as she got in and John spoke to
her, he told her that he had spoken to the care home and it was an EMI residential
care home and the fees are correct and so is the top up fee of £33.00 per week,
she said that Michael and Teresa would be contacted regarding setting up the
payment details for the top up fees by the home and I will be contacted
regarding everything else including the assessment, she said that everything is
in motions and apologised of upsetting me.
Texted
Michael and asked if he could pop in but he phoned me instead and I told him
all that had happened, he said that he had said to mum yesterday about going on
holiday and she asked if he was going to go with her and he said No, we were
all going away and that she would be going on her own, she told him, well we
will have to talk about that. He told me it was hard to leave her, I have been
finding that for the last few months!
I phoned
Daph and told her all about everything that had happened so she is kept up to
date with what is going on.
Teresa
phoned in the evening, she said that she had quite a day with mum, mum had
wanted to go to bed at 3.30pm. Teresa had wanted to do some gardening in the
front garden but mum had insisted it was night time and she would make to much
noise, Teresa had said to her, mum it is only the afternoon and the children
were still playing out, to which mum replied ‘well they should be in bed too’
She kept saying to Teresa, when is he coming, it’s so late, she meant Michael,
when he arrived she told him that Teresa was so bossy.
Teresa said
that it was defiantly time for mum to go into a home now
Friday 30th July
John picked
mum up just after 8am as when I phoned to remind her she was coming here for
the day she told me that the carer had been, she was really, really muddily today
and kept talking complete rubbish all the time.
I got the
photographs out but she couldn’t pick out people only Michael and Auntie Nora.
We had lunch
but by 2pm
she wanted to go home, we left her in the front room with a small glass of Lambrusco
We noticed
that she has drunk 3 bottles of wine this week!!!!
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