Saturday 21st August - Sunday 29th August 2010

Saturday 21^st August 2010          

I phoned the care home and spoke to mum, she sounded very tired and a bit down today, she said that she was bored, we chatted for about 10 minutes.  Jasmine said that she had eaten her breakfast and that all was OK.

Michael and Teresa were going in to see her today.

Sunday 22^nd August

Phoned Michael to see how mum was when he went into see her yesterday, he told me that when they got there she was in her room and just going to get into her bed, she said that she needed a rest as she was tired.

They stayed for a while and when they left she walked to the end of corridor and said she would go back to her room as she was tired, they had left her TV on for her.

We went over to mums house to check everything was OK; everything was fine, although we noticed that the back gate was wide open.

Monday 23^rd August

We went into see mum and she looks really well, she had just had a bath and she said that she had really enjoyed it, she only mentioned her house once.

We took her out in the garden as it was a lovely day; we had a look around at all the flowers and roses and then sat in a really nice sunny spot for about ½ an hour or so.  We went back inside and sat in the dining room for a little while and then we took her back to her room, when we went to go she asked us what were we doing today and that she might as well come with us, I told her that she couldn’t and she seemed OK with that.We had parked the car right outside her room window and she waved to us as we left.

I texted Michael, Teresa and Daph to say that we had been in to see mum today.   Teresa phone and said that she was going in with Lissa tomorrow and she is also going over to mums house later in the week.

Friday 27^th August

Phoned the home and spoke to mum she was making cakes in the dining room. She was really pleased that I had phone, she sounded really good when we first started talking but after a little while she got really confused, she didn’t sound unhappy.  She did ask about Christmas and I told her that she would be going to Michaels as she always did.  I told her that I would be coming in on Sunday with Laura, she asked when Michael would be going in and I told her I thought that he would be in tomorrow (Saturday).

I phoned regarding mums pension, pension credit and attendance allowance, mum continues to get paid in full for 28 days after moving into a care home.  If mum stays in the home she does not have to have a power of attorney but she must have a ‘Appointee Officer’ who can talk on her behalf, a visiting officer would visit mum and the person appointed to deal with mum pension, she suggested that it would be a good idea if I did it as I was already dealing with mum pension for her. Mum would be assessed to see what benefits she is entitled to.  This can be paid into mums bank account, my bank account or straight to the care home.  A letter would be sent to me with the appointment date

Sunday 29^th August

Laura and John took me into see mum she was looking out of the dining room window, she was really pleased to see us, we all kissed her, she looked at John (C) and said aren’t you going to give me a kiss, when he did, she looked at him and said ‘do I know you!’. She did say that someone was missing and I told her that John hadn’t come in with us today. She looked well but was very muddily today. Laura was quite surprised quite how bad she had got lately.

She kept saying that Michael had been into see her, Laura had taken in some home made biscuits in for her with is enjoyed, she ate 3 while we were there. Her bed had been stripped as she had wet her bed, but this didn’t seem to have bothered her. One of the cleaners told us that she was shampooing the carpet and sorting mums bed for her.

We went along to the dining room with her as she was about to have Sunday lunch, she went over to one of the other ladies and started to chat to her.  Mum seems to like the male carer called Mervyn and had a little laugh with him. John © had a chat to the other ladies that were in the dining room.  I didn’t realise just how much the old ladies love the men!!!!

I took in one of her cushions and few other bits from her house for her and asked if mum could have some pictures put up on her wall in her room and they said that she could and they would get their handyman to put them up for her.

I asked if we could take Herbie our dog into see mum and they said that well behaved dogs were always welcome.

Mum was quite happy when we left she hadn’t asked about her house once while we there.  Daphne the care manager came into the dining room before we left and told us that mum had stopped asking t go home and that she had settle well, the only thing that mum did keep mentioning was about Christmas.       

She was fine when we left