Saturday 31st July - Friday 6th Augsut 2010

Saturday 31^st July 2010

We went to the factory shop and got some toiletries, underwear, towels etc to get ready for mum to take when she goes into the care home.

Monday 2^nd August

Salome Erasmus phoned from Park View Care Centre in Ashford to say that they would like to come and assess mum tomorrow (Tuesday) at 11am, I told her that would be OK. I tried to phone Michael but I couldn’t get hold of him so had to leave a message for him on his answer phone at home. I phoned Daph and she said that she would come over with me when they come, she said that it might be a good idea to warn the home that mum isn’t aware about the home, just so that the person who comes is aware of the situation and that Michael has told her she was going on a little holiday.

I phoned and spoke to a Salome who advised me that it wouldn’t be her that came but a lady called Daphne and she would pass on that piece of information.  Michael got in touch and said that he would be there tomorrow and was quite happy with Daph being there too, I got in touch with Teresa and told her, she was working in the morning so wouldn’t be able to come over but would be over Wednesday instead of Thursday this week.

Sarah (the carer) phoned to say that the key is missing from the (front) back door and she didn’t want to leave mums house unsecured. Phoned Daph and she said she has a spare key for that door and she said that she would go over and have a quick look for it but if she couldn’t find it she would use her key, phoned Sarah back and told her Daph would be over shortly.

Tuesday 3^rd August

Mum was waiting for us with the front door open, she seemed quite ‘with it’ but very bolshy. I gave her some breakfast and her medication, got her bath ready and while she was in the bath sorted some clothes to take home to label.

We walked up to the supermarket and got her groceries for the week; John stayed behind and did a little housework for her.

Michael and Daph came over just before 11am and John went home. Daphne, from Park View arrived just after 11am, mum was a bit confused by it all, we used the fact that I had to go into hospital to have my knee replacement and that she needed to be looked after and as Daph had gone back to work and that Michael and Teresa both lived to far away and she needed to go where someone could look after her.  Reluctantly she agreed, of a sorts, she said to me ‘you better get better quickly!’ she also said, where will I go for Christmas and Michael told her she would got to his house like she always does, I felt that it all went a little too smoothly.

Mum did say when Daphne said ‘well you will come to me for a little holiday then’ and mum replied ‘No I will not’ Daphne reminded her that she had already said that she would.  I had a word with Daphne before she went that I felt really guilty about it all and she told me not too as she felt that mum would fit in really well and felt that it could be as early as next week that she could go into the home.

Phoned Teresa and told her what had been said and what had happened , we decided we would both go over next Friday to sort out mums clothes, she said that she was OK about going with Michael to take her to the home.

I phoned Daph to see if mum had gone over to her and told me that she had gone over to see her instead, she said that they chatted and mum said that she wasn’t going and wasn’t staying ..I must say I felt a bit deflated and wished that I hadn’t phoned her.

Wednesday 4^th August

In the evening Daph phoned to say that mum was there, she had started to walk up to the village, Pete went up a brought her back and took her to Daph and Dibs for a cup of tea she thought that she had been to bed and it was the morning, she said that she was going to the shop to get something for her dinner, she took a bit of persuading that it was the evening D & D took her home and got her to go to bed and when she woke up in the morning we would be going over to pick her up and she would be here for the day.

Thursday 5^th August

I phoned mum in the morning, I had to try twice as she didn’t answer the phone the first time and when she did answer it she was very disorientated and told me a very disjointed story about where she had been, I half got the idea that she had been down to her friends house. She said to me that I could have come and seen her today I told her that she was coming here tomorrow for the day.

When Daph phoned me later, she told me that mum had got lost going down to see her friends and that Vic had seen her and when he found her she was in someone’s garage, ‘just looking’ she said.  He took her to her friend’s house and she phoned Daph and she went and picked her up.

Friday 6^th August

We picked mum up at 8.30am I sorted a few more bits of clothing to take home for naming, she had two skirts on, I got her to take one of them off, she was very alert but still confused with her speech, she was reading all the signs along the road on the way over here and she got all the words right but couldn’t put a sentence together.

She watched the sound of the 60’s videos and sang and  tapped her feet and fingers, she was very worried about her friend, so I phoned her from here and got her to talk too mum, mum wanted to wish her a happy birthday and to see how she was.

She dozed a lot, she ate a good dinner and afterward we took her to Pembury to Notcutts garden centre which she seemed to enjoy, we saw a lady from mums village called Joyce and after we had stood talking to her for a while mum looked at her and said ‘who are you’.

We got her home about 4pm and left her with a cup of tea and a couple of cakes.