Wednesday 24th November - Sunday 5th December

Wednesday 24th November 2010

We went into see mum today, we took her some birthday cards, presents and a cake as it is her birthday tomorrow, (Michael and Linda are going in to see her tomorrow) she seemed a lot more alert today, she was looking out of the window when we arrived and waved at us, she was still in her wheelchair.

Daphne said that she had walked out of her room on her own and they met her half way along the corridor, she said that she was tired so they put her in the wheelchair, she seemed very bemused about her cards and presents all the other ladies were more interesting in them than she was.

We took her back to her room, she is happier in there, she suddenly asked us if  Char (her brother) was still alive, we told her that 'no he wasn't'.

We left her watching TV.

Monday 29th November  

I called the care home to see how mum was, Daphne said that she was eating her breakfast and then she would be going to have her bath she was confused and they think that she may have had another small stoke.  I asked her to give her a cuddle for me and told her that we would be in on Wednesday.

Daphne said that when Michael and Linda went in last Thursday mum hadn't joined in with their conversation much.

Wednesday 1st December

Phoned to see how mum was, don't know who I spoke to but they told me that mum was having breakfast in bed this morning and that she was very confused, I told them that we wouldn't be able to get into today as the roads were really bad because of the snow, hopefully we would get in tomorrow  

Thursday 2nd December

Daphne phoned from the care home to say that mum had another UTI and is on antibiotics she is sleeping most of the time, they are getting her up and sitting her in the lounge, they are also having to feed her.

We haven't been about to get in to see her this week because of the snow the road are really bad around here, we are hoping to get in on Saturday.

Friday 3rd December

Tina from the care home phoned to say that they had to call the doctor out to mum and that she has a chest infection and is on more antibiotics, she isn't eating, drinking and not communicating.  The doctor said that it may be the dementia or because of the urine and chest infection.

I phoned Daph and we decided to go in together and see her (the road were still really bad).  She was in her room slumped in her chair, we sat her up more and she said that she wanted to go to the toilet so I went and found someone, they said that they would do it after supper but I told them that it was urgent and she wanted to go  NOW  .  Don't think that they were very happy!

The carer came in and washed her and got her ready for bed they brought her supper and asked us if we would feed her, she had about a third of the soup and we also got her to drink her energy drink, it was logged on her chart how much she had to eat and drink.

 If she doesn't improve over the next couple of days the doctor will go in and see her again.

She found it very hard to tell us what she wanted, just getting a sentence out every now and then.

I felt so sad leaving her and just want to pick her up and bring her home.

Saturday 4th December 

Phone the care home and spoke to Daphne, she said that mums wasn't too good today, she is up and sitting in her chair but she is very weak, she has started her antibiotics, she says that she hates seeing mum like this, but when you resistance is low you can pick up all sorts of things.

I told Daphne that Mary was going in this morning and that Michael and Teresa would be going in this afternoon.

Sunday 5th December   

Daph phoned the care home to see how mum was, Daphne told her that she was a little better today, she had eaten a little toast and some cornflakes, she had also stood on her own without them using the hoist.